I do. It’s a natural feeling from anyone who is away from home.
But, as my mom told me before I left (and who went through the same thing when she left Peru to come to the US), ‘you’ll be so busy with your new life that it makes missing home easier.’ And she’s right. I don’t regret coming here. I know it’s not even three months, but I am happy and feel like I am where I need to be in my life. I am very busy with this new life and enjoying every minute of it.
Unfortunately, homesickness is a part of life and comes whether you like it or not. It also doesn’t matter how long you have been away from home. My mother, who has lived in the States for over 30 years can attest to this fact.
I found this great quote by Liv Hambrett, an Australian blogger living in Germany, who wrote about the inopportune timing of homesickess:
*It also strikes at inopportune times, its little tentacles tightening their grip during moments in which it knows you don’t have the luxury of bursting into irrational tears in private. Like, for example, at dinner parties, or someone’s birthday celebration. When everybody else around you is in fine form, revelling in good cheer, laughing uproariously because they are surrounded by loved ones, yourself included, you sit there like a dolt, eyes glazed, blinking furiously and trying not to think about how much that person laughs like your Mum.*
Yeah, I missed that.
I talked to a fellow ex-pat later. His name is Andre and he’s from Tobago and has been living in Germany for six years. When I told him about feeling homesick, he immediately responded with “It doesn’t go away.”
He’s right. It won’t go away. But you do learn how to manage it and it will get easier.